The Machiavellian's Guide to Charm: For Both Men and Women
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Charm is the ultimate social lubricant. It puts people at ease and soothes tensions in any situation. Charm can stop feuds, create friendships, and even spread joy. It's what makes people laugh and want to be around you. With enough charm, you'll move forward in academia, achieve business success, and enjoy happier, more satisfying relations with loved ones.The Machiavellian's Guide to Charm breaks down the individual components of the sometimes elusive trait of charm and reveals the secret to putting it to work for you. With his unique brand of humor, author Nick Casanova delivers examples of how different personalities-a stiff, a boor, and a charmer-would react in various situations and shows you how to harness the power of charm by focusing on five key elements:FlatteryEmpathySelf-deprecationHumorCalmnessIt's entirely possible for anyone to master the art of charm. The principles outlined in The Machiavellian's Guide to Charm are timeless and can be tailored to fit every individual.
head thoughtfully. 43 “You’re a Good Person” While describing someone as “nice” is often seen as a weak substitute for more substantive praise, people in fact like to be reassured that they are decent human beings. So when the opportunity arises, tell your prey that he’s a good person. “You’re really a decent person, aren’t you? I can always tell, I’m a good judge of these things.” This will both flatter your prey and cause him to believe that you actually do have good judgment. “You really
that was a really good picture, taken before I’d put on some weight and lost a little hair.” PART IV Recovering From a Faux Pas Recovering From a Faux Pas 160 Everyone, no matter how slick, commits social blunders from time to time. The key is to recover from them gracefully, which is usually done by bemoaning your error in some humorous fashion. In fact, if you can come back smoothly enough, you’ll come across even better than had you not stumbled in the first place. This is not to suggest
the entire thing without saying a word.” “Next time, please stop me before I humiliate myself that way.” “Well, I guess you’re becoming acquainted with the limits of my repertoire.” “I only have a few stories, so I have to milk them for all they’re worth.” “I guess I’m a repeatee bird.” “The Alzheimer’s is setting in early.” “Hey, I’m just getting warmed up. Expect to hear that joke two or three more times before I’m through.” The only thing you have to watch out for after you’ve told a story
that you would say that shows what good judgment you have!” Turn to Him for Advice You can make your prey feel both needed and smart if you ask him for advice. If the decision you’re facing is a momentous one, all the better. So whether you’re trying to decide where to go to college, or which job to take, ask his opinion. No need to be subtle; spell out the flattery value of your question. Start by saying, “I’ve always thought of you as a valued ally, a trusted mentor. What do you think I
is the living reincarnation of Seattle Slew. Just remember, if you’re going to give your prey the Guinness treatment, there must be some credibility to your claims. SITUATION: You’ve just witnessed your prey win a wrestling match. STIFF: “Nice going.” BOOR: “Big deal. I know guys that could take you.” CHARMER: “It was sort of like a man against a boy. I guess that guy got a taste of what it’s like to grapple against a real pro.” “You Play Hardball!” You generally want to stay away from