The Angry Book
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Don't get even -- get mad, and get over it!
When your love life is boring, maybe you don't fight enough? When sex leaves a person cold, is frozen anger the problem? If you work too much, eat too much, drink too much, is it because you are afraid to get mad? Did you ever think of your anger as something constructive?
When you lose your temper honestly, it can be good for you. In this perennially bestselling book, eminent psychiatrist and bestselling author Dr. Theodore Isaac Rubin shows how one of the most powerful human emotions can change your life. Suppressed or twisted anger can lead to anxiety, depression, insomnia, psychosomatic illness, alcoholism, frigidity, impotence, and downright misery. But understanding and releasing anger can lead to greater health, happiness, and emotional wholeness.
Let Dr. Rubin show you how to be what you are: a human being.
involved in accident after accident with no awareness of their purposeful involvement. I saw one woman who sustained four fractures in three auto accidents as well as multiple minor injuries, including several kitchen-knife lacerations that required suturing. One woman I saw had had six unwanted pregnancies before she became aware of the anger toward herself that was involved each time. Another woman lost an object she valued highly each time she felt that she failed at being the "ideal wife and
their value has been exaggerated. They can be used to relieve anxiety, but they do not resolve problems, change attitudes, or effect growth. But our interest here is drugs as poison and used as a means to further subvert anger, thus creating more slush for poison. I have seen a number of people in consultation who have used narcotics, tranquilizers, energizers, hypnotics, psychedelics, and marijuana in at attempt to escape unwanted feelings. I had one woman as a patient who came to me with a very
desired. My patient got thirstier and thirstier but was too shy to get up and get a drink. On the way home he suddenly pulled the car to the curb and in great anger l80 T H E ANGRY BOOK yelled at his wife, "You and your lousy friends — t h e y wouldn't even give a guy a drink." W h a t happened here? Dr. X had a desire for a drink, and because of his shyness, he wanted someone to get the drink for him. In this way he wouldn't have to get up, and he wouldn't have come face to face with his shy
"discovery" can be used to extend the patient's knowledge of himself in the service of getting well. In actuality, most well-analyzed psychiatrists do not get angry at a patient as much as they get angry and irritated at a patient's manifestations of neurosis and destructiveness. This does not mean that they reject either the patient or his symptoms. Quite the contrary, they accept the patient in his entirety—much more than the patient himself does—^including the patient's neurosis. Part of this
type, while his slush fund grows and the pus and its poisons spread— without any awareness on his part. Of course he has symptoms of all kinds. However, his total success at cheating himself of awareness of anger prevents him from connecting symptoms with putting-down. Perhaps you know people w h o use automatic putting-down to a great extent. These are some of the typical statements they make: "Me, I just never get angry." "There's just nothing important enough to get angry about." "Yes, I can