Invisible Girls: The Truth About Sexual Abuse--A Book for Teen Girls, Young Women, and Everyone Who Cares About Them
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Invisible Girls weaves together powerful first-person narratives with gentle guidance and seasoned insights to help girls through the maze of feelings that swirl around the abuse experience. This gives every young woman who struggles with the scars of sexual abuse the courage that comes from knowing that she is not alone, while other girls come out from behind the veil of secrecy to become vibrant, healthy, and whole.
want to go and live with my very supportive aunt. My mother says I can. Should I? Do you think my father is “cured”? Are child molesters ever “cured”? Signed, Wanting Out Dear Wanting Out, First of all, I agree with you. I think you should move in with your aunt. This is really a two-part question, and first I will address the moving-out part. There are different schools of thought about this. Some therapists believe that it is usually best to keep families together and that after
difficult emotions to overcome. Time and again it holds back girls from telling. But believe me about this: Once you tell a trusted friend, relative, counselor, or therapist, the shame does begin to lift. If you are the victim of incest, please understand that your father didn’t start molesting you because of anything you said or did. He did it because he is a sick person with a totally warped idea of right and wrong. He tried to pull you into his demented reality. He undoubtedly planned how to
twice feel guilty about even having feelings about it because they know other girls have had it much worse. But I am here to tell you that even “just” once is once too many! It’s not at all unusual to develop emotional problems from just one abuse experience. You have a right to your feelings. And that doesn’t diminish anyone else’s right to theirs. In the continual flow of letters into my website, probably one out of five has to do with some kind of mentor sexual abuse. Often, girls will
drain. I had nothing holding me up, nothing keeping me afloat. I watched from the sidelines as he touched me. —A FOURTEEN-YEAR-OLD ACQUAINTANCE-ABUSE SURVIVOR Acquaintance abuse differs from date rape in that, by definition, you already know the abuser before he rapes you, and it may not involve going on a date at all. You may be friends with the guy or know him from around the neighborhood. You may even be attracted to him, but instead of taking it slow with you and exploring in a way that
I want to tell you that therapy is not the only way to heal. If you open up and find support and love, you will find healing. There are also some pretty amazing novels and films listed in our Resource Center that may really resonate with you and be part of your path to healing. You will also find a couple of healing workbooks in the Resource Center that may help you. And remember—running, singing, talking, playing, drawing, painting, dancing, and any other way you express yourself help you heal.